Date: March 2003
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Janet Elaine Smith
By Dr. Roger
are some things in life that follow a certain pattern: birth, adolescence,
marriage, growing old
Sometimes, however, elements interfere
that reverse that natural order. Perhaps the most traumatic of these
is when a child's death precedes that of their parents.
Roger E. Foxall has written a very dramatic, but helpful, book in
dealing with this issue. First of all, there are a couple of things
that set Dr. Foxall apart as the author of this book. While most
such books are written by psychologists or counselors, Dr. Foxall
is an M.D. In addition, he has not lost a child of his own; but
he did lose a nephew. He shows, very effectively, that the life
of a younger person affects many people, not just their parents.
He delves into how such a death affects siblings, grandparents,
peers, teachers, and many people you don't usually think of as being
affected. He also looks at the death of a "child" as anyone
who is younger than another person. While he does have a chapter
on SIDS, he also describes the death of "children" who
have reached adulthood themselves.
is a very compassionate, well-written book. I highly recommend it
to anyone who has lost a loved one, no matter what their age is.