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Publisher:
Simon & Schuster / Fireside |
Release
Date: 0-7432-2538-4 |
ISBN:
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Format
Reviewed: Softcover |
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Genre:
Nonfiction – Self-Help – Anxiety Disorders
– African-American Women |
Reviewed:
2003 |
Reviewer:
Kristin Johnson |
Reviewer
Notes: Reviewer, Kristin Johnson, is the author of CHRISTMAS
COOKIES ARE FOR GIVING, co-written with Mimi Cummins. Her third
book, ORDINARY MIRACLES: My Incredible Spiritual, Artistic and
Scientific Journey, co-written with Sir Rupert A.L. Perrin,
M.D., will be published by PublishAmerica in 2004. |
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Soothe
Your Nerves
The
Black Woman’s Guide to Understanding and Overcoming Anxiety,
Panic and Fear
By Angela
Neal-Barnett, Ph.D.
Someone
needs to give Kobe Bryant’s wife Vanessa the information-packed
Soothe Your Nerves: The Black Woman’s Guide to Understanding
and Overcoming Anxiety, Panic and Fear. But please, Vanessa, don’t
stop Dr. Angela Neal-Barnet when she’s going to church, though
chances are there are other Black women behind you whose motto is,
“We’re anxious as hell and we don’t want to take
it anymore!”
Black
women do have much to worry about, some of which Dr. Neal-Barnett
addresses: sexual assault (women of color are twice as likely to
be assaulted as white women because they are seen as “easy”
or lesser), violence and violent deaths of loved ones, the “acting
white” stigma, teen pregnancy, discrimination, and the historic
strength that they have modeled in a kind of two-for-one Superwoman
mold. These are realities that everyone needs to understand, especially
women. By reading this book, white, Hispanic and Asian women might
confront their own anxieties and their own stereotypes (the pure
sheltered WASP princess, the devout brave humble feed-everyone Latina,
the exotic subservient Asian woman) and offer support and help to
the sistahs in their lives.
However,
nowhere does the book mention misogynistic hip-hop or philandering
among black men. A Strong Black Woman is supposed to keep the sucker
in line. Easier said than done, even for those who don’t have
their marriage dissected by the media. Nor does the book deal, except
in mentioning not being able to pay for psychiatric treatment, the
effect that poverty has, let alone single motherhood. Perhaps Dr.
Neal-Barnett is trying to lift up the Black woman from stereotypes
by portraying successful women as suffering from compulsions (including
religious compulsions), anxiety, fear, and the ultimate stereotype
of the Strong Black Woman, popularized in the media. She does this
most effectively by portraying Black men as loving partners with
frustrations of their own in dealing with their anxious mates, although
not the self-destructiveness in Black men exemplified by Kobe that
also causes Black women to reach for the Scotch instead of for soul
help. This sensitive, intelligent treatment of a complex subject
could save other Vanessa Bryants.
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