Date: October 2004
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Nonfiction / Self-Help
Lynda E. Lukow
Breast Cancer Husband
to Help Your Wife (and Yourself) Through Diagnosis, Treatment and
By Marc Silver
Those two words often strike fear in a woman's heart, but what of
her significant other? Perhaps unaccustomed to sharing emotions,
perhaps used to being "Mr. Fix-it", the typical husband/partner
frequently becomes terrified, too, but not just about the diagnosis.
He's worried he'll say or do something that will further upset his
Marc Silver readily admits he fell into an abyss of ignorance with
his wife's diagnosis. While myriad books aimed at women exist, the
lack of information written by a man for men spurred him to pen
Breast Cancer Husband: How to Help Your Wife (and Yourself)
Through Diagnosis, Treatment and Beyond.
title suggests, Mr. Silver covers every aspect of breast cancer.
How is the diagnosis made? What role does the husband play amongst
the many members of the treatment team? What are the treatment options?
How can a husband help alleviate the side effects of chemo? How
does he cope with a pitted or removed breast and does cancer mean
the end of intimacy? For time-crunched readers, the detailed contents
page allows for immediate access to pertinent-to-the-moment information,
and each section ends with valuable tips.
book is not just a layman's guide to medical terms. Mr. Silver has
conducted numerous interviews with oncologists, social workers,
nurses and therapists, who share stories of both loving and misguided
male responses. "Guy Talk", counsel from other breast
cancer husbands, is also interspersed throughout the guidelines.
Advice, such as don't use sports analogies when talking to your
wife, is straightforward and concise.
have not yet discovered a way to prevent breast cancer, I'd say
Mr. Silver has found the way to avoid foot-in-mouth disease. If
the woman in your life has the tragic misfortune of suffering from
this dreaded disease, do yourself a favor. Keep a copy of Breast
Cancer Husband: How to Help Your Wife (and Yourself) Through Diagnosis,
Treatment and Beyond handy. While the book may not keep you
out of the doghouse, it will probably help you lighten the sentence.